Relationship Therapy in Seattle, WA
Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what that actually feels like.
Online relationship therapy throughout Washington and Oregon
If you want to feel more connected with yourself — and with others, you’re in the right place.
The Quiet Reasons People Seek Relationship Therapy
You keep having the same fight, but what hurts isn’t the topic, it’s how alone you feel while you’re having it.
Trust broke and never fully came back.
You’re exhausted from trying to be close to your partner without losing yourself.
You feel like your partner doesn’t see how hard you’re struggling.
You miss feeling wanted, chosen, loved, or emotionally safe… and you’re not sure when that started to fade.
You have a desire to go deeper and need more than just coping skills.
Meet Your Psychologist in Seattle, WA
Hi there, I’m Dr. April, and it’s really nice to meet you.
You’re here because the way you relate to yourself or to others feels harder than it should, and you want to understand more than just why.
I work with adults who are trying to function inside relationships that don’t feel emotionally safe, settled, or secure.
You might be chronically single but exhausted by the same dynamics replaying. Partnered but unsure whether your relationship can actually meet you, or you meeting them. Or in a committed relationship where love exists, yet connection feels fragile, tense, or out of reach.
In therapy, we slow down the moments where you feel activated, shut down, over-functioning, or on edge — not to pathologies or make assumptions, but to understand what they’re protecting and why they keep showing up in your closest relationships.
We work with the parts of you that learned how to survive emotional unsafety — the ones that stay alert, withdraw, people-please, or react explosively — so you can build relationships that are healthy, honest, and emotionally connected.
This work isn’t about quick fixes or becoming “better” at relationships.
It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you,
and slowly creating the possibility of relating without constant vigilance, shame, or fear of the next rupture.
Therapy for Relationship Struggles in Seattle, WA
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Therapy for Navigating Relationships (and the lack of them)
You’ve built a full life. You go to work, you keep your life moving, and somehow this is the one area that never stabilizes. Relationships start, stall, or end without clarity, leaving you replaying what you missed or did wrong. You don’t want reassurance — you want this to finally make sense.
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Therapy for Couples Stuck in the Same Fight
You’ve had this fight before, even when the words change. One of you pushes, the other shuts down, and the same unresolved hurt keeps resurfacing. You’re not fighting about the present — you’re stuck inside a pattern neither of you knows how to stop.
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Therapy for Partners after Betrayal
After a betrayal, your brain doesn’t stop scanning. You find yourself checking tone, timing, messages, and then feeling embarrassed that you still need reassurance. Trust didn’t just break between you. It shattered your reality and identity, so even small things can set off doubt.
Relational trauma isn’t just about what happened in the past.
It’s about how your nervous system learned to protect you in closeness, through withdrawal, over functioning, conflict, or self-abandonment.
The Strategy
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Step 1: Understand Your Patterns
First, we slow things down and make sense of what’s actually happening in your relationships. Whether you’re single, partnered, or coming in as a couple, we identify the patterns that show up around closeness, conflict, anxiety, or emotional reactivity. Without blame or judgment.
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Step 2: Learn How to Respond Differently
Insight alone isn’t enough. This step focuses on what happens in the moment — when emotions run high or connection feels risky. You practice pausing before reacting, regulating big emotions, and responding in ways that feel more aligned with who you want to be.
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Step 3: Build Safer, More Secure Relationships
Over time, these new responses become more natural. Singles build healthier relationships with themselves and future partners (if they want). Partners and couples learn how to communicate, repair, and reconnect with more trust and emotional safety.
The good news.
Seattle relationship therapy helps you break cycles, resolve conflict, and communicate your needs.
You don’t change when you’re told what to do.
You change when you experience safety while telling the truth and learn how to bring that truth into your everyday life.
Ready to invest in yourself or your relationship?
Here’s how to begin.
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We’ll explore your goals for therapy and determine if my style is the right fit for you.
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Once we decide to move forward, we select a day and time to meet consistently. Most clients start off with weekly therapy sessions and then over time graduate to biweekly, monthly, and so forth.
Through my client portal, I’ll send over all questionnaires and consent documents that you complete before our first intake session — so we don’t waste time.
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Trust the process means trusting your pace. Healing is rarely a straight line; it’s a layering of insight, safety, practice, and self-trust. As our work unfolds, we’ll co-create an approach that supports your nervous system, your goals, and your real life. Progress can be subtle at first, then it starts to stack, one step at a time.
Book a free 20-minute consultation today!
Book a free 20-minute consultation today!