Relationship Therapy in Seattle, WA

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what emotional safety feels like.

Online relationship therapy throughout Washington and Oregon

You’re here because the way you relate to yourself or to others feels harder than it should.

Quiet Reasons People Seek Relationship Therapy

for individuals…

  • You’re doing the inner work, but your partner — or the people you date — can’t meet you with the same emotional presence.

  • You tell yourself you’re independent. You have a full life. Friends. Work. Interests. But at night there’s a sharp, private loneliness you don’t talk about.

  • You keep being the “understanding one.” The flexible one. The emotionally literate one. And somehow, you still end up feeling unseen.

  • You don’t actually believe someone could choose you and stay. If they seem interested, you’re suspicious. If they pull away, you assume it makes sense.

for couples…

  • You want to be more open. More vulnerable. But every time you try, it either escalates or gets minimized, and it feels easier to retreat than risk that again.

  • Something happened that split the relationship into a “before” and “after.” Infidelity. A secret. A betrayal you didn’t see coming. You’re still in the same house but it doesn’t feel like the same relationship.

  • Even though you’re together, there’s a quiet question underneath it all: Are you really choosing me? Or just staying because it’s easier than leaving?

  • Trust hasn’t been shattered in one dramatic moment. It’s worn thin in small ones — defensiveness, half-truths, promises that felt sincere but didn’t hold.

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Meet your Psychologist in Seattle, WA

Hi there, I’m Dr. April, and it’s really nice to meet you.

Therapist in Seattle providing trauma-informed therapy for better relationships.

I work with individuals and couples who don’t want surface-level coping tools. They want to understand why their nervous system reacts the way it does. Why love feels both essential and threatening. Why the patterns keep repeating.

Our work goes underneath the story and into the body. We travel into the attachment wounds, the protective strategies, the places that learned to tense up. Drawing from years of research and clinical work focused on relationship satisfaction and connection, I help you see the cycle clearly and stay with what’s been hard long enough for a corrective emotional experience to emerge. This is where change occurs.

Therapy with me is experiential. We don’t just analyze your life, we feel it in the room, in real time. We pause when you start to shut down. We notice the flicker of anger that covers hurt. We track the pull toward closeness and the reflex to protect yourself. Over time, your body begins to learn a different way of being in relationship.

And for those who feel profoundly stuck, we can thoughtfully consider alternative forms of healing such as Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) if appropriate, which targets new neural pathways in the brain to access new perspectives and psychological flexibility.

Therapy here is collaborative, deeply human, and even humorous at times. We work together at the pace your system can hold, whether you’re an individual or a couple. I’d be happy to connect!

Learn More About Dr. April

    • Betrayal and rebuilding trust

    • Attachment wounds (anxious or avoidant)

    • Recurring conflict and disconnection with partner, spouse, or friends

    • Intimacy struggles and mismatched needs for desire

    • Low self-worth or esteem in relationships

    • Childhood and sexual trauma

    • Sexuality and gender expression in relationships

    • Grief, relationship loss, and living losses

Therapy for Relationship Struggles in Seattle, WA

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    Therapy for Navigating Relationships

    You’ve built a full life. You go to work, you keep things moving, and somehow this is the one area that never settles. You bring reflection, emotional presence, and intention into relationships — yet you often feel like you’re carrying that alone. You don’t want reassurance. You want to understand what keeps creating this gap.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy
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    Therapy for Couples Stuck in the Same Fight

    You’ve had this fight before, even when the words change. One of you pushes, the other shuts down, and the same unresolved hurt keeps resurfacing. You’re not fighting about the present — you’re stuck inside a pattern neither of you knows how to stop.

    Learn More: Couples Therapy
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    Therapy for Partners after Betrayal

    After a betrayal, your brain doesn’t stop scanning. You find yourself checking tone, timing, messages, and then feeling embarrassed that you still need reassurance. Trust didn’t just break between you. It shattered your reality and identity, so even small things can set off doubt.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy

The Strategy

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    Step 1: Understand Your Patterns

    First, we slow things down and make sense of what’s actually happening in your relationships. Whether you’re single, partnered, or coming in as a couple, we identify the patterns that show up around closeness, conflict, anxiety, or emotional reactivity. Without blame or judgment.

    Start with a free 20-minute phone call or video. We’ll explore your goals for therapy and determine if my style is the right fit for you.

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    Step 2: Learn How to Respond Differently

    Insight alone isn’t enough. This step focuses on what happens in the moment — when emotions run high or connection feels risky. You practice pausing before reacting, regulating big emotions, and responding in ways that feel more aligned with who you want to be.

    Most clients start off with weekly therapy sessions and then over time graduate to biweekly, monthly, and so forth.

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    Step 3: Build Safer, More Secure Relationships

    Over time, these new responses become more natural. Singles build healthier relationships with themselves and future partners (if they want). Partners and couples learn how to communicate, repair, and reconnect with more trust and emotional safety.

    We’ll go beneath the surface of the arguments, the anxiety, the shutdown, and work at the root so you can build healthy relationships — and feel like the best version of yourself inside it.

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The good news.

Seattle relationship therapy helps you break cycles, resolve conflict, and communicate your needs.

You don’t change when you’re told what to do.

You change when you experience safety while telling the truth and learn how to bring that truth into your everyday life.

Integrated Therapy Approaches

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    Somatic Therapy

    Somatic therapy works with the body because healing isn’t just a mindset shift, it’s a nervous system shift. As your system learns to regulate, reactions soften, emotions feel more manageable, and change happens more naturally.

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    Internal Family Systems

    Internal Family Systems sees your inner world as made up of different “parts,” each with its own emotions, roles, and intentions. When you get to know these parts with compassion, the inner conflict softens and you create more space for clarity, peace, and healing.

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    Mindfulness

    Mindfulness is really just learning to pay attention to what’s happening inside and around you, in real time, without piling up the criticism. It’s the practice of noticing your thoughts and feelings with curiosity rather than judgment, so you can respond with clarity instead of reacting on autopilot.

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    Attachment Science

    Attachment science explores how the relationships we first relied on create a blueprint for how we connect, cope, and feel safe. Those early bonds influence how we view ourselves and how we show up in relationships throughout our lives.

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    Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP)

    KAP in a therapeutic setting can help soften rigid patterns, open new perspectives, and make emotional healing more accessible. Paired with compassionate guidance and integration work, it can create a safe inner space for deeper insight, release, and meaningful change.

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    EMDR Therapy

    Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a modality designed to treat PTSD, anxiety, and traumatic memories.

    EMDR THERAPY AVAILABLE JUNE 2026.

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Relationship therapy in Seattle, WA and Portland Oregon.

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what that feels like.

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