Relationship Therapy in Seattle, WA

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships — but feel stuck in painful patterns they don’t know how to change..

Online relationship therapy throughout Washington and Oregon

You don’t have to keep repeating the same cycle.
We’ll work at the root so you can feel calmer, clearer, and more connected.

You might recognize yourself here if:

  • You overthink everything after conflict

  • You feel lonely even when you’re not alone

  • You want closeness but also feel guarded

  • You keep attracting unavailable or mismatched partners

  • You shut down, explode, or withdraw when emotions run high

  • Trust has been damaged and you don’t know how to repair it

  • You’ve done personal growth work — but relationships still feel confusing

Reasons People Seek Relationship Therapy

for individuals…

Understand your attachment patterns, heal relational wounds, and build a stronger sense of self — so connection feels safer instead of overwhelming.

You may begin to notice:

✔ Less anxiety and rumination
✔ More self-trust
✔ Healthier partner choices
✔ Ability to communicate needs clearly
✔ Greater emotional stability

for couples…

Move out of blame, shutdown, and repeating arguments into understanding, repair, and genuine closeness.

Together, we work to:

✔ Break negative interaction cycles
✔ Rebuild trust after hurt or betrayal
✔ Improve communication without escalating
✔ Increase emotional safety
✔ Reconnect as partners, not enemies

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The Strategy: Real Change Happens in Stages

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    Step 1: Understand Your Patterns

    First, we slow things down and make sense of what’s actually happening in your relationships. Whether you’re single, partnered, or coming in as a couple, we identify the patterns that show up around closeness, conflict, anxiety, or emotional reactivity. Without blame or judgment.

    Start with a free 20-minute phone call or video. We’ll explore your goals for therapy and determine if my style is the right fit for you.

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    Step 2: Learn How to Respond Differently

    Insight alone isn’t enough. This step focuses on what happens in the moment — when emotions run high or connection feels risky. You practice pausing before reacting, regulating big emotions, and responding in ways that feel more aligned with who you want to be.

    Most clients start off with weekly therapy sessions and then over time graduate to biweekly, monthly, and so forth.

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    Step 3: Build Safer, More Secure Relationships

    Over time, these new responses become more natural. Singles build healthier relationships with themselves and future partners (if they want). Partners and couples learn how to communicate, repair, and reconnect with more trust and emotional safety.

    We’ll go beneath the surface of the arguments, the anxiety, the shutdown, and work at the root so you can build healthy relationships — and feel like the best version of yourself inside it.

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Relationship struggles rarely exist in isolation. We look at the full emotional landscape.

    • Betrayal and rebuilding trust

    • Attachment wounds (anxious or avoidant)

    • Recurring conflict and disconnection with partner, spouse, or friends

    • Intimacy struggles and mismatched needs for desire

    • Low self-worth or esteem in relationships

    • Childhood and sexual trauma

    • Sexuality and gender expression in relationships

    • Grief, relationship loss, and living losses

Meet your Psychologist in Seattle, WA

Hi there, I’m Dr. April, and it’s really nice to meet you.

Therapist in Seattle providing trauma-informed therapy for better relationships.

I work with individuals and couples who don’t want surface-level coping tools. They want to understand why their nervous system reacts the way it does. Why love feels both essential and threatening. Why the patterns keep repeating.

Our work goes underneath the story and into the body. We travel into the attachment wounds, the protective strategies, the places that learned to tense up. Drawing from years of research and clinical work focused on relationship satisfaction and connection, I help you see the cycle clearly and stay with what’s been hard long enough for a corrective emotional experience to emerge. This is where change occurs.

Therapy with me is experiential. We don’t just analyze your life, we feel it in the room, in real time. We pause when you start to shut down. We notice the flicker of anger that covers hurt. We track the pull toward closeness and the reflex to protect yourself. Over time, your body begins to learn a different way of being in relationship.

And for those who feel profoundly stuck, we can thoughtfully consider alternative forms of healing such as Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) if appropriate, which targets new neural pathways in the brain to access new perspectives and psychological flexibility.

Therapy here is collaborative, deeply human, and even humorous at times. We work together at the pace your system can hold, whether you’re an individual or a couple. I’d be happy to connect!

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The good news.

Change is possible even if your patterns feel deeply ingrained.

Relationship therapy can help you:

✔ Break repeating cycles
✔ Resolve conflict more constructively
✔ Communicate needs without fear
✔ Feel safer being vulnerable
✔ Rebuild trust
✔ Experience connection without losing yourself

You don’t change because someone tells you what to do.

You change through new emotional experiences that teach your body and mind that connection can be safe.

Therapy for Relationship Struggles in Seattle, WA

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    Therapy for Navigating Relationships

    You’ve built a full life. You go to work, you keep things moving, and somehow this is the one area that never settles. You bring reflection, emotional presence, and intention into relationships — yet you often feel like you’re carrying that alone. You don’t want reassurance. You want to understand what keeps creating this gap.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy
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    Therapy for Couples Stuck in the Same Fight

    You’ve had this fight before, even when the words change. One of you pushes, the other shuts down, and the same unresolved hurt keeps resurfacing. You’re not fighting about the present — you’re stuck inside a pattern neither of you knows how to stop.

    Learn More: Couples Therapy
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    Therapy for Partners after Betrayal

    After a betrayal, your brain doesn’t stop scanning. You find yourself checking tone, timing, messages, and then feeling embarrassed that you still need reassurance. Trust didn’t just break between you. It shattered your reality and identity, so even small things can set off doubt.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy

Integrated Therapy Approaches

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    Somatic Therapy

    Somatic therapy works with the body because healing isn’t just a mindset shift, it’s a nervous system shift. As your system learns to regulate, reactions soften, emotions feel more manageable, and change happens more naturally.

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    Internal Family Systems

    Internal Family Systems sees your inner world as made up of different “parts,” each with its own emotions, roles, and intentions. When you get to know these parts with compassion, the inner conflict softens and you create more space for clarity, peace, and healing.

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    Mindfulness

    Mindfulness is really just learning to pay attention to what’s happening inside and around you, in real time, without piling up the criticism. It’s the practice of noticing your thoughts and feelings with curiosity rather than judgment, so you can respond with clarity instead of reacting on autopilot.

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    Attachment Science

    Attachment science explores how the relationships we first relied on create a blueprint for how we connect, cope, and feel safe. Those early bonds influence how we view ourselves and how we show up in relationships throughout our lives.

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    Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP)

    KAP in a therapeutic setting can help soften rigid patterns, open new perspectives, and make emotional healing more accessible. Paired with compassionate guidance and integration work, it can create a safe inner space for deeper insight, release, and meaningful change.

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    EMDR Therapy

    Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a modality designed to treat PTSD, anxiety, and traumatic memories.

    EMDR THERAPY AVAILABLE JUNE 2026.

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Relationship therapy in Seattle, WA and Portland Oregon.

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what that feels like.

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