Relationship Therapy in Seattle, WA

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what emotional safety feels like.

Online relationship therapy throughout Washington and Oregon

If you’re tired of carrying the emotional weight, second-guessing yourself, or feeling alone in your relationships, you’re in the right place.

The Quiet Reasons People Seek Relationship Therapy

  • You keep having the same fight, but what hurts isn’t the topic, it’s how alone you feel while you’re having it.

  • You’re doing the inner work, but your partner — or the people you date — can’t meet you with the same emotional presence.

  • Trust broke and never fully came back.

  • You feel like your partner doesn’t see how hard you’re struggling.

  • You miss feeling wanted, chosen, or emotionally safe… and you’re not sure when that started to fade.

  • You’re single, successful, thoughtful, and self-aware… yet you’re tired of relationships that never quite meet you at the emotional level you’re capable of.

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Meet your Psychologist in Seattle, WA

Hi there, I’m Dr. April, and it’s really nice to meet you.

Therapist in Seattle providing trauma-informed therapy for better relationships.

You’re here because the way you relate to yourself or to others feels harder than it should, and you want to understand more than just why.

I work with adults who are trying to function inside relationships that don’t feel emotionally safe, settled, or secure.

You might be:

  • Chronically single and exhausted by the same dynamics replaying

  • Partnered but unsure whether your relationship can truly meet you

  • Married or committed, where love exists but connection feels fragile, tense, or out of reach

In therapy, we slow down the moments where you feel activated, shut down, over-functioning, or on edge. Not to pathologize. But to understand what those processes are protecting you from and what makes these responses show up in your closest relationships.

Together, we work with the parts of you that learned how to survive emotional unsafety — the ones that stay alert, withdraw, people-please, or react explosively — so you can build relationships that that are healthy, honest, and emotionally connected.

This work isn’t about quick fixes or better communication scripts. It’s about creating the internal safety that allows real closeness to last.

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Therapy for Relationship Struggles in Seattle, WA

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    Therapy for Navigating Relationships

    You’ve built a full life. You go to work, you keep things moving, and somehow this is the one area that never settles. You bring reflection, emotional presence, and intention into relationships — yet you often feel like you’re carrying that alone. You don’t want reassurance. You want to understand what keeps creating this gap.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy
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    Therapy for Couples Stuck in the Same Fight

    You’ve had this fight before, even when the words change. One of you pushes, the other shuts down, and the same unresolved hurt keeps resurfacing. You’re not fighting about the present — you’re stuck inside a pattern neither of you knows how to stop.

    Learn More: Couples Therapy
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    Therapy for Partners after Betrayal

    After a betrayal, your brain doesn’t stop scanning. You find yourself checking tone, timing, messages, and then feeling embarrassed that you still need reassurance. Trust didn’t just break between you. It shattered your reality and identity, so even small things can set off doubt.

    Learn More: Relational Trauma Therapy

Relational trauma isn’t just about what happened in the past.

It’s about how your nervous system learned to protect you in closeness, through withdrawal, over functioning, conflict, or self-abandonment.

The Strategy

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    Step 1: Understand Your Patterns

    First, we slow things down and make sense of what’s actually happening in your relationships. Whether you’re single, partnered, or coming in as a couple, we identify the patterns that show up around closeness, conflict, anxiety, or emotional reactivity. Without blame or judgment.

    Start with a free 20-minute phone call or video. We’ll explore your goals for therapy and determine if my style is the right fit for you.

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    Step 2: Learn How to Respond Differently

    Insight alone isn’t enough. This step focuses on what happens in the moment — when emotions run high or connection feels risky. You practice pausing before reacting, regulating big emotions, and responding in ways that feel more aligned with who you want to be.

    Most clients start off with weekly therapy sessions and then over time graduate to biweekly, monthly, and so forth.

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    Step 3: Build Safer, More Secure Relationships

    Over time, these new responses become more natural. Singles build healthier relationships with themselves and future partners (if they want). Partners and couples learn how to communicate, repair, and reconnect with more trust and emotional safety.

    We’ll go beneath the surface of the arguments, the anxiety, the shutdown, and work at the root so you can build healthy relationships — and feel like the best version of yourself inside it.

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The good news.

Seattle relationship therapy helps you break cycles, resolve conflict, and communicate your needs.

You don’t change when you’re told what to do.

You change when you experience safety while telling the truth and learn how to bring that truth into your everyday life.

Integrated Therapy Approaches

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    Somatic Therapy

    Somatic therapy works with the body because healing isn’t just a mindset shift, it’s a nervous system shift. As your system learns to regulate, reactions soften, emotions feel more manageable, and change happens more naturally.

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    Internal Family Systems

    Internal Family Systems sees your inner world as made up of different “parts,” each with its own emotions, roles, and intentions. When you get to know these parts with compassion, the inner conflict softens and you create more space for clarity, peace, and healing.

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    Mindfulness

    Mindfulness is really just learning to pay attention to what’s happening inside and around you, in real time, without piling up the criticism. It’s the practice of noticing your thoughts and feelings with curiosity rather than judgment, so you can respond with clarity instead of reacting on autopilot.

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    Attachment Science

    Attachment science explores how the relationships we first relied on create a blueprint for how we connect, cope, and feel safe. Those early bonds influence how we view ourselves and how we show up in relationships throughout our lives.

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    Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP)

    KAP in a therapeutic setting can help soften rigid patterns, open new perspectives, and make emotional healing more accessible. Paired with compassionate guidance and integration work, it can create a safe inner space for deeper insight, release, and meaningful change.

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Relationship therapy in Seattle, WA and Portland Oregon.

Trauma-informed attachment therapy for individuals and couples who want healthy, secure relationships, but haven’t always experienced what that feels like.

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